Drama and The Four Agreements


I belong to a growing online community of beautiful, wonderful souls connecting with each other from all points of the globe to weave a web of support as we find ourselves tuning into the collective consciousness. Many of the threads I've read there recently start off with good intentions, but quickly turn into virtual shouting matches between many members hurling insults at each other faster than the speed of light. Enough. The Four Agreements by Don Miguel Ruiz

The first tenet of The Four Agreements is to be impeccable with your word. To speak with integrity and to say only what you mean. While some, when caught up in the heat of the argument, honestly feel they mean the words they say at the time, tenet Two reminds us that what others say and do is a reflection of their own reality.... Think about it.

Are you caught up in this endless dialogue, competing to see who has the last word? Do you feel the need to "stick it" to someone one last time for the sake of showing your dominance over another? How is that working for you?

Agreement Three: Communicate with others as clearly as you can to avoid misunderstandings, sadness, and drama.

If you find yourself in constant, escalating, pissing contests, how is this serving you? On one hand, you could say it's not serving me very well at all. I just raised my blood pressure over arguing with some guy I really don't care about. Or, on the other hand, you could say, thank God, what a blessing! I just found an area of my spirit I need to work on! There would be a lot less drama in my life if I didn't feel the need to get the last word in all the time. It's too much effort to continue with the bashing and I'm all about wanting my life to be free and easy now.

Agreements Two and Four: Don't take anything personally and always do your best.

Not every day is going to be a walk in the park. You'll come across situations and circumstances that really chap your hide, but always remember that life is about choices. You can choose to play into the drama that holds you to the lower forces and prevents you from rising to your highest potential, or you can simply choose to always do your best to unlock the secrets to Ascension revealed in the previous agreements.

To the ladies, I will say, cattiness is not attractive and sometimes is considered crazy. That's why people imitate the cat roar to make fun of two women that are fighting. We laugh but it's not amusing, especially when you find it directed at yourself.

To the men, I offer, pissing on each other is not sexy. Locking horns with each other makes most of us women roll our eyes and want to move on. I repeat: Seeing a man who stands up for himself when justifiably wronged or to defend a woman's honor = sexy. Watching a man argue for the sake of arguing = not sexy.

If you find yourself on this page and you've read this far, I thank you, but surely you are in some stage of the Awakening process. My hope is that you will take these words to heart, study the agreements, rise up to the challenge they present, and step into a new level of growth opportunity. The choice is yours but I ask you to choose wisely.

Don't take anything personally and blame others for dragging you into situations in which you chose to participate on some level. Choose, instead, what you know is best for you in your heart. Choose the path that will leave you feeling lighter after you've walked away from all the bad stuff that was holding you down. Choose to do the best with the tools you've been given, then prove to yourself and others that you can rise above it all. Remember Who You Are way shower, light mover, warrior of peace! You're better than that and I believe in you.

Keep calm and carry on.  Love and flow.

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